The fact that half the actors in your average porno production are males and that they too are paid to be there goes unmentioned. This does not need to be mentioned, because everyone knows that males enjoy sex. Those guys therefore have the best jobs in the world, unlike the females, who are only doing it for the money, right?

No. In reality, females in the adult entertainment industry make several times more money than their male colleagues, not because they do not enjoy sex or they really feel degraded on film, but because they need to be compensated for all that they have to put up with when they are NOT naked in front of the camera, that is, the social pressure from the rest of society, particularly from feminists, that comes as a result of their defying their socialization.

Only females receive this kind of opposition when they refuse to conform to rules concerning their sexuality that are unwritten but are supposed to be followed. This is something that their male colleagues do not have to deal with.

The truth is that pornography is only degrading to females if one believes they are not supposed to enjoy sex as much as males do or that the value of females lies in their sexual exclusivity, as we are traditionally led to believe. Hence, a female who does not conform deserves less respect, and if you disagree with the notion that a female’s value lies in her sexual exclusivity, then you are disrespecting her if you treat her otherwise. This is nonsense.

At the end of the day, pornography is rarely degrading to females but denying their sexuality always is, and denying their sexuality has done more harm to womankind than pornography ever will. Therefore, one might think that today’s feminists, who are supposed to fight for “women’s” rightful treatment, would actually celebrate those who defy the socialization that attempts to condemn their sexuality, particularly in the only industry in the world where females earn a lot more money than males do for performing the SAME job. Instead, no other group on earth is as anti-porn as feminists.

Why? Because socialization makes people fight against their own best interests without even being aware of it. The same way males who lack success with women do because they sabotage themselves without having a clue of how.

If you are interested in finding out how, I recommend you to stop reading my blog and instead get a copy of my book, The Manual. All the mistakes you are making without even knowing it will become apparent, but it will also show you what to do instead.

I say that it’s most-likely the one and only book I’ll ever write because I have been working on it on and off for years. High quality really takes its time and time is something that I much rather spend with my girlfriends. Nevertheless, patience is a virtue, and even a few hours per week adds up and low and behold, one day it was simply done. I am very pleased with the end-result and all the positive feedback I have received so far.

I sincerely believe that the book is all that you’ll ever need to read about the topic of dating and seduction. 346 pages packed with everything in between high-level issues down to the nitty-gritty details, with focus on all the things I wish I would have known from day one, that would have kept me from a lot of heartache, bad dates, and sleepless nights, as well as the issues that I know most males are concerned about.

Once you’ve read it, I am sure you will agree that you’ll never need to read anything else on the same subject, and if you still do, you will only be reminded how much bad and misguided dating “advice” is out there.

The book has been available to eager fans for a couple of months already while the final draft was being polished and edited professionally for the second time. I appreciate their patience as well as their feedback, it has been overwhelmingly positive so far. But if you havent heard what is so special about it already, then please checkout the book’s information page to get a brief introduction and quick overview of all that it covers, or just click here to buy it now!

I wish you all a Merry Christmas and hope you will enjoy reading it. If you have been a “good boy” this year then you not only deserve to have it but actually NEED it. At least if you are looking to become successful with women or want a hot girlfriend, although it might make you less successful with your mother (who most likely were the one raising you with such ineffective manners).

In a perfect world, we could always be honest and I would love to be an advocate of honesty at all times, but unfortunately that would mean you would say things that women definitely do NOT want to hear, like how much better their best friend was in bed or that you do find their teenage daughters attractive.

A male needs the confidence to speak his mind when he is around women, but he also needs the wisdom not to allow that desire to be stronger than his desire to get girls. Seduction is not about saying what you want; it is about getting what you want. It is good to be assertive and tell women what you want to say, but what they want to hear is even more important, because that is how you get what you want as well.

However, if you have read The Manual, you already know that what you want to say and what women want to hear may not be that different, so you can actually stick to the truth as much as possible until you run into such conflicts of interest with women.

While having a reputation of being popular with women is a good thing, a man wants to avoid being known as a player, because a player is someone who lies and deceives women to get them into bed. Although females often cannot help being attracted to such men, many women will intentionally avoid them, or their friends will interfere.

Also, seducing women while being (almost) completely honest with them has to feel better because then you know it is the real you that they fall for.

But males cannot make such drastic improvements in their attractiveness by altering their looks, since females are more attracted to a male’s behavior than his body. He can, however, alter his behavior, including telling women what they want to hear, to become more attractive to them.

Most people jump to the wrong conclusions when they hear that the best way for a male to seduce women is to tell women what they want to hear. Many have moral objections to it because they believe it only means lying to women, which is socially unacceptable, unlike when females lie to males. These people do not understand what women want, though, because they are stuck with the beliefs that males need achievements and amazing stories to impress women and prove their worth, or they believe that all that women want to hear are promises of eternal love or marriage.

In that mindset, lying seems inevitable and therefore quickly comes to mind, but it is not the mindset that you will have after reading my book and finally understand what women want.

Avoiding lies should not be a problem as long as you understand that you do not have to agree with women on everything for them to like you, that you should not be afraid to say something that could upset them, that women love your candid opinion, that you do not need to impress them with amazing stories or grandiose achievements, and that it is not necessary to make promises you do not intend to keep.

Only males who are under the influence of bad socialization—those who lack confidence, self-esteem, and understanding of what women want—feel so inadequate that they pretend to be more rich, famous, successful, and ambitious than they really are, thinking this will make them more attractive.

How easily you become ashamed and embarrassed is directly linked to your level of self-esteem, since shame is figuratively (and sometimes literally) about covering yourself. The higher your self-esteem is, the less embarrassed you allow yourself to be. You will only be embarrassed over something if you care more about what other people think of you than you think of yourself, especially if others discover something that you “ought to be ashamed of.” You would only care about that unwritten list of behaviors that are deemed socially unacceptable if your self-esteem is low to begin with because other people have passed this list on to you too. You were not born with it.

Children are not naturally embarrassed over anything. They run around naked outdoors if they feel like it, they will lie straight to their parents’ faces about who ate all the chocolate while their face is still covered with it, and they will take someone else’s toy in the sandbox without asking for permission and without worrying if someone sees them doing it. Children do not care about any of that, at least not until they have been told to be ashamed of themselves, to go into their room and feel bad for a while, to go to bed without dinner, and to promise never to do anything like that to upset their parents again.

Children are taught the basic rules of society this way (such as to not lie or steal), which is a good thing, but they are motivated to follow those rules because they will feel bad if they do not, rather than because not following them would cause social disruptions. Once we become adults, we understand the more complex reasons for having these rules, but the conditioned response of a strong uncomfortable emotion still prevails among many grownups.

Adults who tend to be easily embarrassed often rationalize that they are better people because of it, but you are not more respectable, polite, and well-mannered if you are easily ashamed. You are only more brainwashed, and that is the only thing that is truly embarrassing.

To get the girls you really want, to be able to look at them, talk to them, and touch them the way that is necessary to turn them on, you have to become shameless. Only if you are shameless will you be able to do whatever you want to do, whatever needs to be done, even if some people generally would avoid it and label it as embarrassing. If they want to make themselves feel bad, fine. Let them have it. Some people actually do feel embarrassed about what other people do; that is how strong the effects of social conditioning can be, but this only proves that some of our feelings have nothing to do with our own experience.

I plug my own book in every single post almost, not only because this is my site after all, or because I know The Manual is awesome and that anyone who finds the post they just read interesting will apprecite it too, but because I have no shame at all. In fact, I am very proud of the book as it was a gruesome personal project to complete, but most of all, I am proud of myself. But before I was, I never got the girls that I wanted, and you will not either as women are not attracted to males with low self-esteem.

Nevertheless, this is not the case.

Those studies (and the females, for that matter) have it all backward. Females are not attracted to funny males, but they find the males they already deem attractive to be funny. When you are fond of someone, you laugh more easily, even at foolish jokes that you normally would not respond to or statements that are not jokes to begin with. This creates the illusion that “I like him because he is funny,” when the reverse is really true: “I think he is funny because I like him.”

This is another example of why you should never listen to dating advice from females or dating surveys, as they tend to confuse cause with effect. This is an easy mistake to make, but it can have a devastating consequence on your success if it makes you chase skills or qualities you do not need. Too often males focus on being funny around women, acting like clowns, telling jokes, and performing pranks, to make the woman they want laugh instead of making her feel any useful emotion, such as attractive or horny.

These are the emotions that you should try to evoke with the women you want, and you will know you are doing a good job of being charming when you always make women smile every time you meet them, even before you have said a word—as this means they have associated seeing you with positive emotions. This is why everyone loves people who are charming, as it literally feels good to be around them.

Charming people feel good about themselves as well, and they allow that emotion to be contagious by extending it to other people, showing their interest in them, and bringing out the best from everyone else. They steer conversations toward topics that they notice other people are interested in or by asking questions that require the recollection of good memories that instantly make them feel better. However, there is one thing in particular that makes women feel good about themselves. But I only reveal it in my book, The Manual.

When you are dating a woman, you have to know exactly which situations those are, so when you face them, you can play your part and behave as expected. If you do not, you will not be considered a man by the woman you are with, and you will simply not get the girl.

However, what it means to take responsibility is not entirely clear to most people, since so few actually do it. Many talk about it without being aware of what it entails. They may even claim to take responsibility for a lot of things, but as soon something goes wrong, you will find that they are clueless about what responsibility really means. Females in particular have very little understanding of everything that they expect of a male during courtship, and they will therefore look down on any male who does not live up to their expectations, since according to them, they are fairly low – but in reality – there is A LOT that they expect.

By avoiding responsibility during seduction by being more passive or indirect, females also weed out males that lack confidence and charm, since confidence is required to take the risk, albeit minor, that inevitably comes with taking responsibility for dating, and a man who bothers to step up is, of course, considered charming for making the effort.

Responsibility is something one has to take, not just pay lip service to. Talk is cheap and actions definitely speak louder than words when it comes to responsibility. In practice, it means several things and you will find 7 chapters in The Manual that cover everything that it entails. Although I can tell you right now, in dating, it all begins with taking the initiative to lead. As far as dating goes, nothing happens to or without you; you have to make things happen.

You might want to keep her separated from the males in your social circle who are ladies’ men—if you happen to associate with any—not because they could steal your woman from you, but because their behavior will influence her opinion of you.

Many females believe that the type of friends a male has is a reflection of who he is. Thus, regardless of whether your friends have sworn secrecy about your weekend adventures and additional girlfriends, and even if there are no secrets in need of being kept, they may still have a negative influence on your woman if she hears them brag about their “conquests” and how they go out to meet new women every weekend. You could get yourself into trouble even when you do not deserve it.

The same goes for any unattractive dorks that you might be hanging out with. Consider keeping them away from your girlfriend, or you run the risk of having her think that you really are more like them, which is a shame if you no longer are.

It is what you do when you see a gorgeous girl but then think to yourself, “I could never get a girl like that” and walk away even though the woman did not actually reject you.

Males who are unsuccessful with women are not so because WOMEN reject them a lot, but because they reject themselves too often, either by giving up too early or by not even trying at all. While plenty of males do not meet any women at all because they never even try, most of the males that have some success waste a lot of time by failing to move forward, such as dating for weeks without sex. They do this not because they lack interest in having sex earlier, but because they do not even try to take the female back to their home any time sooner.

The idea might not even occur to the males until after several dates when they believe that the timing is right, when they feel that they have been wining and dining their woman “enough.” But such a belief is all in their heads, caused by their socialization.

Never stop yourself from progressing because you have limiting beliefs, because those beliefs come from your socialization and not from your real-life experience. This applies to everything from what kind of women you believe you can get to how fast you believe you can get them. Your attitude should always be open with unlimited possibilities. If limitations really do exist, you will find out for sure when you run into them, and so be it, but never cut yourself short by not even trying.

The most unsuccessful males have usually only been rejected a handful of times, with a couple of years in between each occasion, long enough for them to accidently meet a new female, make good friends with her, fall deeply in love with their fantasy version of her by admiring her from afar, only to confess their true feelings for her way too late with the dreaded “let’s just be friends” excuse as a natural consequence.

If a woman says that to you, it usually means you have already made friends with her, and that takes a long time to do. You have spent a lot of time without flirting with her, which is your big mistake.

Men who know how to get girls meet more women in a weekend than you do in a year and they face rejection too, but without wasting months to develop deep emotions before it happens, which saves both time and heartache. We are told, “I’m sorry, I’m not interested” or “I have a friend who is single that I would like to introduce you to” when we are rejected. That is pretty much it. No dramatic scenes, no broken hearts, no agonizing pain or suffering to keep us awake at night. It just happens, life goes on, we meet another woman, and SHE keeps us awake at night.